Study Guide for Lamanna & Reidman Marriages and Families

1)There is an interrelationship between the individual and society. Discuss how individuals (in their choices, behaviors or group actions) affect society. Give one example. Discuss how "personal troubles" may be related to social problems. Give one example.

2) The following social factors influence or affect personal choices:

A) Historical events; B) Race/Ethnicity; C) Social Class;

D) Age Expectations. Give an example of each and explain how it affects personal decisions.

3) In what two ways do families create a "place to belong"? Provide an example and fully explain each.

5) Define and explain Familism and Individualism as important values. Give an example of each and say why they might be in tension.

1) Explain the Family Ecology Perspective. What is its relationship with family policy?

2) Explain the Family Development Perspective.

3) Explain the Structural Functionalist Perspective (what are the 3 main functions of the family?).

4) Explain the Interactionist Perspective. How is it a micro level approach?

5) Explain Family Systems Theory.

6) Explain the Conflict/Feminist perspectives. How is feminist theory different in its mission?

7) Up until the 1960s, research had been done by white middle class males. This is problematic. (p.40,41) Fully explain cultural equivalent, cultural deviant and cultural variant approaches to studying ethnic minority families. Give an example of each.

1) Define and distinguish sex from gender. Describe the societally defined masculine traits and feminine traits. (52,53,54) (What are men supposed to develop? What are women supposed to develop?)

2) What is the nature-nurture debate? Fully explain the genetics-based and biological- based arguments for male dominance.

3) Fully explain the societal based socialization theories of our gendered identities.

4) Explain one example of the interaction of culture and biology.

5) Define and summarize the 3 camps in today’s men’s movement.

1) "Love is a deep and vital emotion resulting from significant need satisfaction, coupled with caring for and acceptance of the beloved and resulting in an intimate relationship." A) Define "deep and vital emotion". B) Define and distinguish "legitimate being needs and "illegitimate (deficiency) needs". C) Define caring and acceptance.

2) Do men and women care differently? Discuss Cancian’s views.

3) Explain the 3 parts of Sternberg’s triangular theory of love.

4) Briefly explain and give an example of the 6 love styles:

A) Eros (passionate love); B) Storge (friendship- companionate love);

C) Pragma (pragmatic); D) Agape (altruistic); E) Ludus (love play);

F) Mania (possessive).

5) Explain why love isn’t martyring or manipulating.

6) Why is self-esteem a prerequisite to loving? Don’t forget to distinguish self-love from narcissism.

7) Describe A Frame, H Frame and M Frame relationships.

1) A) Compare and contrast Patriarchal Sexuality and Expressive Sexuality. B) What was so revolutionary about the 1960s?

2) Describe the 4 stages of constructing a gay identity in an atmosphere of homophobia.

3) Describe 4 standards of non-marital sex.

4) The authors discuss conscious mutual cooperation (p.124-128) as requiring 3 elements: A) High Self Esteem; B) Transcending gender scripts and stereotypes; C) Communication and Cooperation. Fully explain each of the elements and say why they are important for intimacy in relationships.

5) A) Why do young spouses have sexual intercourse more than older mates? B) Define and discuss habituation.

6) A) Discuss how HIV/AIDS has affected individuals’ behavior and society’s response to it. B) Define "The New Christian Right". What "family values" do they believe in? Define their position concerning two controversies related to HIV/AIDS.

1) Cultural values, historical and demographic factors all influence individual choices. A) Discuss how the Great Depression of the 1930s affected individuals’ choices in the 1950s (which shows why the 1950s were atypical); B) Explain 4 social factors influencing singlehood today(147-151).

2) Discuss the research on African American singles: A) Why has the proportion of marrieds declined?; B) Are black men and black women different in their expectations about marriage?; C) What is the sex ratio and how might it affect behavior?

3) Describe the "new other woman".

4) Discuss the relative mental health benefits of singlehood and marriage. Be sure to discuss the differences by gender and by choice of being single.

5) Explain why supportive social networks are so important. Among what groups might you find these supports?

1) Explain The Marriage Market historically and presently. Use Exchange Theory and discuss the types of "resources" and "costs" one may bring into a relationship. In the traditional exchange, what do women bring? What do men bring? How might the traditional exchange be changed by women’s modern entry into the labor force?

2) Define "Homogamy". Use Laura and Jeremy to explain the 4 reasons why most people are homogamous.

3) What are the 2 purposes of courtship? Explain how "imaging" might be at odds with intimacy. Discuss frontstage and backstage behavior. Define and Distinguish "dating" and "getting together".

4) Explain the 4 patterns of cohabitation: A) Linus Blanket;

B) Emancipation; C) Convenience; D) Testing.

5) Generally speaking, teen marriages are more likely to end in divorce. The authors think age is associated with maturity. Define and explain why A)Emotional maturity, B) Economic maturity, C) Relationship maturity and D) Value maturity are important in relationships.

1) Define: Kinship, consanguineous, conjugal, extended family. Explain how the dominant American cultural pattern is not universal.

2) Compare and contrast the parallel relationship pattern with the interactional pattern. Compare and contrast the utilitarian marriage pattern with the intrinsic marriage pattern.

3) Briefly define each of the 5 types of marriage: A) Conflict Habituated;

B) Devitalized; C) Passive-Congenial; D) Vital; E) Total.

4) The marriage premise holds that partners will take responsibility to keep each other primary in their lives and to work hard to ensure that the relationship continues. A)Discuss what factors help in the expectation of permanence.

B) Discuss what the expectation of primariness means and explain how extramarital sex is viewed by men and women.

5) List the economic and legal advantages which same sex couples do not get because they cannot legally marry.

1) Families are powerful environments. Define and explain "The Looking Glass Self", attributions, consensual validation, gaslighting and scapegoating as powerful family functions.

2) Because of the conflict taboo, we often deny conflict. Define and explain "anger insteads", passive aggression, fight evading, gunny-sacking and kitchen sink fighting.

3) Of the guidelines for Bonding fights, define and explain the following:

A) Listening; B) Leveling; C) Use of ÒIÓ statements (give an example);

D) Feedback and Checking-it-out.

4) Discuss the gender differences in fighting and conflict resolution mentioned throughout the chapter.

1) Define and explain the "Resource Hypothesis" . Explain the criticism of this hypothesis from the perspective that resources are not neutral and power is not gender free.

2) Define and explain the "principle of least interest" and the "relative love and need theory".

3) Explain and give examples of power politics in marriage. What is the neutralization of power? Explain Case Study 10.1, p. 284 "An Ice Skating Homemaker is a Me-or-Him Bind" as exemplifying these concepts.

4) Explain the 3 phase cycle of domestic violence. Why do husbands do it? Why do wives put up with it?

5) Name and explain the two approaches to combating child abuse.

1) Briefly describe "work" of men and women in preindustrial times, in and after the industrial revolution, and in post-industrial society.

2) Define and explain the costs/benefits of the "Good Provider Role" for men. Define the following: A) Main/Secondary provider couple; B) Coprovider Couple; C) Ambivalent provider couple.

3) Define and discuss the Pros and Cons of the following models of Two-Earner marriages: A) Two Career Marriages; B) Self-Employment;

C) Part Time Employment; D) Shift Work; E) Leaving and Re-Entry.

4) Define and explain the reasons for the "Wage Gap".

5) Define and Explain: "Unpaid family work", woman as kinkeepers, the daughter track, the second shift.

6) Within the household, describe who does what and explain why.

7) Describe the different types of childcare. What are the 2 sources of parental stress regarding childcare?

8) Discuss family, medical and parental leave as a public policy issue. Compare the US with some European nations. (p.420,423).

9) Define and explain how couples may use a gender strategy in negotiating the second shift.

1) Name and explain the four factors contributing to a high divorce rate.

2) When couples weigh their marital happiness against both alternatives to the marriage and barriers to divorce, what factors do they consider? (p.474,475) When does one know s/he is ready for divorce? (p.476)

3) Define and explain:

A) The Emotional Divorce;

B) The Legal Divorce (include mediation and no fault);

C) The Community Divorce (including who remains kin?);

D) The Psychic Divorce (including stages of mourning);

E) The Economic Divorce (including alimony, differential effects on men and women);

F) The Coparental Divorce (including child support, and custody issues).

4) (p.485) Discuss the philosophy behind entitlement. Define the recent policy and procedural changes concerning child support. What policies operate in France and Sweeden?